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Are you willing to stop being a _______ wife so you can become the wife God created you to be? 

It’s easy to fantasize about a dreamy marriage and envision yourself as the ideal wife, but the reality is that life is hard (and busy!). Somewhere along the way, the brilliant wife we aspire to be fades into the background, but we don’t have to stay there.

After over a decade of serving as a military spouse, Ashley struggled to free herself from the burdensome layers of exhaustion, stress, and resentment. She decided to fast from being a critical wife for 40 days, knowing that following Jesus’ example of love and humble service was the only way to unveil the wife God created her to be. In place of criticism, Ashley lived out these simple, powerful, and exhilarating challenges to reinvigorate her marriage. 

Through these challenges, you’ll learn how to:

✓ Prioritize pursuing your husband
✓ Invite God into your marriage
✓ Follow Jesus’ model of love and service
✓ Cultivate intoxicating intimacy; yes, that’s biblical
✓ Infuse fun into your marriage

So, are you ready to pursue your husband like never before? Journey with Ashley on this heart-changing adventure as she helps you to discover God's abundant plan for your marriage. You’ll never be the same again, in such a good way. ​

​You've got this, Friend! Make your marriage count!

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It's time to get rid of the negativity, the distractions, the resentment, the criticism, the exhaustion, and the disinterest in our spouses. Let's tap back into the excitement of dating and revive our marriages!


TRACY LYNN DOUGHERTY

Founder of Equip and Encourage Women
Marriage is our most important earthly relationship, yet it is so often neglected by distractions or the “urgent” rather than the “important.” The Stop Being a _______ Wife challenge was the perfect reminder to daily engage in showing love for my husband. Ashley gave us easy, fun and meaningful activities to do for, or share with, our spouses. We found ourselves eagerly looking forward to each day to spend time reminiscing on the past, enjoying today, and casting vision for our future. This marriage challenge is simple and powerful.  ​

ANDREA VAUGHAN

Pastor's wife, homeschool mom, and military spouse
​I highly recommend this challenge! As a wife with four children, I know I set the tone for our home. This challenge helped remind me each day to serve my husband in a selfless and tangible way. Each day brought something fun or thoughtful to try to better respect and honor my husband who does so much for our family. Thank you for writing this challenge! I look forward to participating in the challenge again! It can be done at anytime and I recommend starting today!

JULEE DEGROAT

Jesus lover, designer, swim instructor, homeschool mom, and ​foster parent
Your challenge made me remember that I needed to nurture my marriage more and get out of the everyday routine. It sparked a new joy in doing little things for my husband and loving him in small ways. The massage was super special and unexpected for him. He asked me what he did to deserve that. I used to give massages all the time before we had kids, so I am trying to do more of those things I did before our children.​ Also, it was fun to secretly be loving and praying extra on my hubby.

KIM CHRIST

Nurse, military spouse, and homeschool mom
​Throughout the 2019-2020 academic year, I became convicted of the importance of strengthening my husband’s and my relationship. Both he and Ashley’s husband, Tim were in the same active military leadership course, one that required hours of study, classroom, numerous papers and exams, and left little time for myself and our three littles. After the first months of suffocating immersion we recognized the strain it placed on us and resolved to be intentional about one-ness in our marriage. I began actively working towards patience, listening, and seeking to honor God in my words and attitude towards him. The Stop Being a _______ Wife challenge by Ashley was an excellent springboard! It provided ideas and encouragement, allowing me to serve my husband in ways that my “mom brain” would not have readily identified. I could be intentional in loving him well throughout it by tailoring it to our schedule, as the majority of the challenges took less time than finishing my morning coffee, a never ending quest in the life of a mom! God also used certain days to remind me of an area where I needed repentance and humility in asking Lou’s forgiveness for a specific habitual sin. Marriage is a work in progress but finding ways to incorporate laughter and bring emotional closeness along the journey is a great gift, one that Ashley’s challenge brings!

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